My thoughts about how difficult today was going to be were much worse than the reality. The day was actually reasonable. The puppies tolerated/played with each other….to the point of exhaustion. They now are flat-out on the floor at my feet.
There are several other situations in my life that have a continuum of potential outcomes from easy to terrible…and my mind is trying to write stories of the bad outcomes…and then I have to consciously bring myself to the truth of this very moment. The truth is, the event does not exist in this moment and that the negative outcome is only in my mind.
Choosing a peaceful possibility is in my control in the moment and I choose to create that story…for now. Here is how I do it…in the form of 5 Rs.
- recognize the negative future-focus
- remind myself I can choose another possibility
- reframe the thought to either a neutral or positive outcome
- release the thoughts of the future altogether
- re-engage in the moment at hand.
This is a lifelong practice. For some unknown reason to me, the brain has a habit of going toward the negative future outcome. The only purpose I can see for this is to have a sense of being prepared for the worst.
Instead of preparing for the worst, what I would prefer to do is to create the CONSISTENT story that says…
I am resourceful and will meet each situation with the intent to create as much peace for myself (and others) as possible. Therefore, I can trust myself and release the need to prepare for the worst.
Up NEXT…creating the story that tonight’s sleep is restful because Harley sleeps through the night!