I love it when I think of something and then I see it in real life in some form.
Today is one of those days that thoughts became things spontaneously. Just today I thought that we need more umbrellas in our house, and UMBRELLAS were the parting gift at a networking event. While riding the Metro, I saw that Gallup has job opportunities: as I ascended the stairs of the Metro stop, the GALLUP OFFICE was the first building I saw. At work, I updated my Linkedin profile linking to my high school in Iceland (A.T. Mahan) and just now I found that an old HIGH SCHOOL FRIEND from Iceland commented on my Facebook page.
What I attribute this to is alignment, flow, and a hint to where my ‘sweet spot’ is for attracting what I want in my life. It also shows me that I am paying attention and it amps my desire to create more of the same. Good things are coming my way…and I am ready for them.
I love when things flow
With ease and grace to show me
I am supported
Record low temperatures require the right outerwear. I’ve acquired an ever-so-stylish green coat from a re-sale shop. It is essentially a walking sleeping bag. The investment was $35 but the warmth is priceless. What I’ve gained in reasonably priced parka, I’ve lost in style. But here is the thing, I don’t give one care.
I had been told that with age, what others think doesn’t matter. This coat represents my evolution into that frame of mind. When thinking about this concept, the fun French term Sans Souci (carefree) comes to mind.
So now I ‘haiku’
Green coat is ugly
Sans souci is my new style
Warm is the new black
Recently I’ve created many opportunities that have pushed me to make decisions. I’m deciding on bigger things like, taking a part-time job, upgrading my website through a third-party and accepting volunteer opportunities that stretch me.
This is what I signed up for this year because my word is DECIDE. Something I couldn’t have predicted is learning the real power of the word AND. Over the years I’ve either heard or read about leaning into the AND versus having either/or, black-and-white thinking. Conceptually I was all in with the idea of AND. This year, I am experiencing AND, and it feels so fun and expansive. Who knew?
My biggest AND at the moment is that I have taken a fun part-time job in the city which gives me exposure to creative energy and PEOPLE (have I told you I am an extrovert?). This opportunity came as a surprise even though I applied for a posting way back in 2013 (way back sounds like it is so long ago).
One of my many ‘fun’ applications for jobs both strategic and tactical finally had a hit. The tactical job won out which is very cool AND it is part-time which allows so much more for me to expand on what I want to be/do/have at this point in my life. My experience of AND in this situation is that I get to have a fun, creative, collaborative and energetic work experience AND I get to build out my coaching practice. I can do both (the photography is a bonus AND). For whatever reason, I am now LOVING the word and am looking for more opportunities to experience it. It is as if I am now addicted to AND. I’m looking for another hit!
Just as I started developing this post, a colleague of mine posted about the SAME topic read here.
I’m on to something! What are your ANDs?
Today I ran a workshop on Self Esteem that I had a great time creating. I had even more fun facilitating it. I was in my element from start to finish (minus the moments of self-doubt and avoidance and perfectionism – and back around).
So, taking from a lesson from the class, I am celebrating my strengths using I AM statements to wrap up this experience:
I AM resourceful
I AM creative
I AM a planner
I AM able to ask for help
I AM surrounded by amazing friends
I AM good at research
I AM willing to do it “my way”
I AM motivated by making things the most fun I can
I AM able to set great intentions
I AM generous
I AM excellent at connecting.
Here is the feedback from the coordinator:
Thank again so much for coming and doing this session!!! Your gift for reaching people is an AWESOME sight to watch. God has given you a great ability to connect with people and this group of women lives has been enhanced as a result of having you cross their path.
I say a simple THANK YOU to that! (which is another lesson from today – accept compliments simply and graciously). I would also like to acknowledge that this feedback speaks directly to my CORE VALUE – Authentic and Meaningful Connection
Final note – The words placed after the I AM statement are of utmost importance. They are ‘facts’ to the brain…so make it GOOD! Please, if you have read this post…do this for yourself. It will do loads of good for YOU and those who you influence. You’re doing the world a favor.
Speaking of favors, on my way to the event, someone bumped my fender. I got out of the car, and released the woman from any obligation. I then asked her to pay-it-forward. She blessed me. Today is officially a good day!
I am somewhat embarrassed by the fact that I’ve done the ‘typical’ New Year thing and joined a gym. I pride myself in being a little different, so doing this seems like I’m following a crowd…but goodness, it isn’t a bad crowd to follow, right? I chose the closest gym to my house (3 minutes) which actually isn’t the “best” gym but has enough to keep busy. I think easy access is one of my tickets to success.
Here is my gym/fitness story. I have had some great successes in my past with keeping fit and staying in shape. I even ran a marathon and did a sprint triathlon. However, I also have a history of injury that puts me right back to ground zero. Deciding to build a significant habit again…and again…and again can be a little daunting.
The business of fitness brings up my “all or nothing” habits which create a little manic and overzealous approach and then injury comes and I stop cold turkey. My last big push was in 2006 (yes 8 years ago). I was left with bad knees and a permanent issue with my shoulder. These ‘injuries’ were manifesting before and got re-activated at that time.
As of late, I have been doing moderate exercise with walking, light weights and spurts of ‘classes’ from time-to-time. I’ve been content with this but knew that I would want to get back in better shape at some point…my mid section is asking for more (and arms too)! So, for the past year I’ve been talking to myself about a gym but have been cautious about what I am making ‘joining a gym’ mean. I want to make sure I am honest with myself and also be very deliberate with adding this into my life. Here are some of my wishes for this:
- I want to honor my fiscal investment and go on a consistent basis.
- I want to work within my limits and develop a healthy relationship with fitness.
- I want to ease into my habit…baby steps.
- I want to build a consistent (but flexible) routine.
- I want to avoid injury and ‘set backs’.
- I want to HAVE FUN doing it.
- BONUS: I want to meet like-minded people to add to my network of friend/acquaintances.
So, there it is, I am accepting what has been in the past and creating a new story and relationship with this fitness thing. I get to DECIDE how this works in my life. The overall intention is HEALTH and VITALITY!
That is one of the many suggestions I have in my Self Esteem workshop I am creating for a nonprofit. I love that I am reminded of the concept on the 2nd day of the year. I am so happy to put this idea front and center for 2014.
I really want to believe that I can create an ideal, multifaceted career that fits my values, desires and strengths. I am believing that it is possible…in fact, I might even be so bold as to say the career is already in process and I all need to do is see it, ask for it, believe in it and receive it gracefully.
At this moment, the clarity I have are in the words and requisite feelings that I am activating for my career and ultimately my life. The list is long… I’ll stick with 14 to commemorate the year 2014.
Creativity, curiosity, variety, collaboration, innovation, strategy, learning, relevant, facilitation, possibility, current, integral, meaningful, expansive.
As always…this or better!
The first of the year is deemed PAJAMA DAY for me. I not only stayed in my PJs all day, I showered and changed into CLEAN PJs in the evening. The first day also usually involves some beginning-of-the-year rituals. I created a visual journal page celebrating the Year of the Horse. I started a new year in my 5 year, line-a-day journal. I wrote in my daily journal (the last day I wrote was October). I finished some work for clients and started developing a class for a non-profit. While the day was relaxed, it was also meaningfully productive; a very nice start to the year.
Another ritual (like Pajama Day), is to pick a word for the year. Last year’s was Elevate. I reflected a little on what Elevate meant me in 2013, and honestly there isn’t anything that sticks out as super significant, but I can see where I’ve achieved things that have raised my possibilities. For example, I signed up to be certified in a coaching process based on the law of attraction (www.goodvibecoachingacademy.com ). I updated my resume and began to research career opportunities for me to work in a creative and collaborative environment (this will be in addition to my coaching and photography). I opened my heart to a new puppy. I stood down from the auction committee at the elementary school (normally I would have stuck it out). The list could easily go on if I spent more time thinking of the specifics of my year. I can see that each contributed to my concept of Elevate.
This year’s word came to me in a flash. The flash was due to the fact that I was in a group discussion and I had to come up with something ‘on-the-spot’. I decided to go with whatever came to my mind and chalk it up to divine inspiration. So, the divinely inspired word for 2014 is DECIDE.
That word can be a little bit overwhelming to me because it involves possibly having an opinion about things that I normally am flexible about. I also know that my Myers Briggs Type of P (perceiving) is naturally inclined to leave things ‘open’ so that I don’t close down other options. Deciding sometimes feels like a very risky thing to a P. The other uncomfortable part, is that my type in terms of the Enneagram (I am a 9) has a tendency to not focus on my own needs, but looking out for the good of the group. So this DECIDE word feels more challenging than it does peaceful…buuuuuut….I know that sometimes the things that make me want to drag my knuckles on the ground and mope, are the ones that, in my soul, I know are only going to provide growth and expansion for me.
My other belief about the word DECIDE from a law of attraction perspective is with clarity of desire, comes alignment and ease of manifesting said desire. Alternatively, if you give out ‘wishy-washy’ desires, you’ll manifest wishy-washy results, which may be fine in the short-term, but will then require more clarity over time to fulfill the ultimate desired feeling state that one is looking to achieve.
So, DECIDE for me will be a lot about knowing what I desire from a feeling state, and also owning some clear boundaries and decisions on what I really want next for my life. Two areas of specific interest to me are my career and my relationship with abundance. I may actually have to have some opinions about both…and that scares me a little…in a good way (I think).
Alas, this day is about to come to a close for me, and most likely tomorrow will involve wearing ‘outside’ clothes (not that wearing pajamas outside is a bad thing). I am feeling a sense of peace peppered with anticipation. It is a good feeling state for me because I live in a state of contentment with my simple life, but also am activating the desire for more and better. All is well.
I have been both enjoying the process of gaining clarity and also have been overwhelmed by the options and all the limiting beliefs I have about what it means to work.
The thing I love about this process is that I realize that I actually can get things done and can make good strides. I don’t see myself putting things off. I DO see that there are roadblocks that I must plow through and brave moments I must have. I am practicing the art of putting my neck out there and knowing that I’ll be ok.
What I DO want is to feel empowered and that I have choices. What I DO want is to have fun figuring this out. What I DO want is this to be a fun story to tell in the end. I DO want to clear out some of the ‘thinking muck’ as I go along so that when the opportunities present themselves, I can address them from a place of personal choice (want to’s) versus fear (have to’s).
It is all coming together nicely, in due time and with greater and greater clarity…and dare I say fun.
I have been having a flood of ideal scenarios playing out for me.
I have been desiring meaningful connection, collaboration and some direction toward what my next career step will be. I also have opened up a desire to do volunteer work that is aligned with my coaching/mentoring passion.
- Just this week I have 3 scheduled calls to discuss forward momentum with my ideal-type of clients (meaningful connection)
- I have said yes to a workshop for a local nonprofit (collaborate & volunteer)
- I have gotten 2 mentoring relationships started (volunteer)
- I have 2 new photography sessions on the books (creativity)
- AND I have had a response back regarding a possible job (career)
Other fun things are showing up like songs playing that I want to hear, :11 showing up on the clock on a regular basis, and not really related, but my DOG IS CLEAN!
I know how and why this works for me. I am actually masterful at getting what I want AND also being relaxed when it hasn’t shown up (yet). I am able to maintain an even energy that allows me to enjoy my simple abundant life while also launching desires and expansion that if it came would be FABULOUS, but if my life maintained its beautiful hum…I would be more than ecstatic.
I have become more and more skilled at playing both ends of the spectrum (simple AND expansive)…and I believe that is why sometimes I have these beautifully aligned periods. I know that to acknowledge, accept, and honor these times (which can be called “milking it”), boosts the possibility for more of the same (or better!).
I LOVE what this week is bringing. I LOVE that I can create and accept what comes into my life with ease and joy. I LOVE sharing how this works with others. Pretty amazing!
(picture is from my 15 year anniversary trip to Cambodia – one of my favorite trips ever!)