Happy in the NOT
Go with the flow
I have to admit, I’ve been avoiding this space. I love to write and in fact I write daily in my other blog, but right here on this space, I think Ms. Perfection is visiting and the thoughts go something like this:
I have to have something profound to say.
I’m waiting for that perfect inspiration to write about.
I have to make another video and be “good at it”
I wonder what people think about my writing.
Is anyone even reading this?
I think I have to get my wabi sabi wand out and wave it over this space (and my brain) and just get going where “I am” and not try to make this something it’s not (and more importantly, I’m not). So there! I make this pledge that by Monday, my wabi sabi self will be back on track and will be saying things…whatever they are, and however I want to say them! There…that feels better.
My new favorite phrase is wabi sabi.
Woman’s Day had an article promising the secret to happiness (and who could not read THAT article), and lo and behold, my new favorite mantra greets me. Wabi sabi is, in its barest essence, the Japanese art of finding beauty in imperfection and profundity in nature. Before finding this concept, I had been saying in my mind and out loud “imperfectly perfect” as I go about doing “things” like writing, coaching, cleaning the house, parenting …you know pretty much everything in my life. I think that wabi sabi is WAY MORE FUN to say. I can see that being my daily (or moment by moment if need be) mantra to release the perfectionist tendencies that can stop me in my tracks. Wabi sabi is like our little secret code-phrase in my Martha Beck circles; being “willing to suck at it“…again, wabi sabi feels much kinder.
As seems to be true for me a lot lately,if I find something I hone in on (ie “perfectly imperfect)…I see more signs of it in other places like in this blog post by Christine Kane and then in the concept of wabi sabi, and then in a book I just read called Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway (I wrote about it here). As I often say…I’m getting signs from the Universe, that I’m onto something.
The Woman’s Day article had this poem which REALLY speaks to me:
Ring the bells that still can ring
Forget your perfect offering
There is a crack in everything
That is how the light gets in.
By Leonard Cohen
And to end this post I offer this intention to you: WABI SABI